Having a gay in the family

Parents of a gay child have to come to terms with learning that their child is gay. Learning your child is gay is often a great shock. Many parents cannot accept that the child they brought up is gay, is different. The parent feels ashamed, that they have failed, that others will mock them, that their child has betrayed them. Some parents reject their gay child and refuse to talk to them.

This script is designed to allow the parent to see things differently. This hypnosis script uses metaphor, visualization and suggestion to help the parent of the gay child to come to terms with having a gay child in their life. You can be comfortable with saying 'my child is gay'.

EXTRACT FROM ACCEPTING YOUR GAY CHILD SCRIPT

	Hypnotic Induction
	So settle back now, get comfortable... and close your eyes.....
	Now take a deep breath, and hold it.... and .... just let it all go.... ahhhh...That's good...		Start releasing tension
	When you are ready.... take another deep breath...... and as you do... lift your shoulders up... and as you breath out.... let them slump down and relax.		Let go muscle tension
	Now lift your arms slightly.... and on the next breath out... let them drop down naturally.... and as those arms go down, relax your whole body		Let go muscle tension
	And I wonder if you could imagine what it would be like if your arms and legs had become so heavy ... that you just could not move them... that they felt as if they were made of lead...	D	Dissociation
	...and just allow that heaviness to grow
	... and now I would like you to focus on your breathing.... just become aware of the gentle in and out of your breath...	D	Dissociation
	And as you think about your breathing... with each breath out... just allow your body to relax more...	I	Dissociation
	and you could become curious as to exactly how relaxed you can be...
	...and focusing on each breath out will let you relax and settle down a little deeper... each time you breathe out....		Deepening
	...while you think about that....		Ambiguity
	and a little more relaxation after every breath... that's good....	D	Deepening
	and continue breathing gently... relaxing....
	And as an experiment, for the next ten breaths.... you could start counting each breath out... counting down from ten down to one.... as you breathe out... say the next number under your breath... or think of the next number... if you can...	I	Deepening
	allowing each breath to relax you more... and as you relax completely... as you say each number quietly to yourself... you might find that those numbers are disappearing....you may find it harder and harder to know what number comes next... and you can relax those numbers away... if you want to... those numbers can just disappear completely... with each gentle breath.... as you drift down and down...	I	Make the listener aware that they are in trance now
	And as you become aware of that at some level... that means that things are going exactly the way they should be...		Reassurance
	... and your mind is opening now...	D	Seeding
	Accepting difference as OK
	Things have been changing... and change is a fact of life...some things have to change... and everyone has to change with it...		truism
	You are feeling mixed feelings... you are going through a lot... anger... sadness... shame... shock... guilt... at what has happened... and that's to be expected...		empathy
Behavior	those feelings are the first steps towards change...	I	Reframe
	Think of all the things that he could do... that was different... and think about how you would accept that change... thank of what you could accept... and what would be difficult...	D	imagine more changes
	Maybe you like blondes... but he likes brunettes... would that be OK? Would it change how you feel about him? Maybe you like fishing or bowling... and it turns out he doesn't... would that change how you feel about him?		Incremental change
	Suppose he chose someone from a different race... how would you go about accepting that? Would you think he was different?		practice changing
	Suppose he chose someone much older... would you learn to accept that?		more practice
Capability	Because what he does, does not change who he is... who he really is... what has changed is your way of looking at him... and you can learn to change that too...
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	The rest of the script is in the SEXUAL HEALTH COLLECTION
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Accepting your child is gay

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Having a gay in the family

EXTRACT FROM ACCEPTING YOUR GAY CHILD SCRIPT

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