Jealousy Hypnosis Therapy Regression
I had a client yesterday who told me she had a jealousy issue and she wanted jealousy hypnosis therapy. She was a very young woman. Jealousy is not unusual in young women. What was unusual about this client is that she was not jealous about a boyfriend or some other girl.
In this case it is actually that when she is with a friend and that friend goes to talk to someone else she gets anxious. It is the fear of losing that other person. She gets a sick feeling inside. She doesn't seem to have anything else in her life that is wrong. Just this thing about always fearing that the her friend has gone off and won't come back.
Choosing Regression Therapy
This behavior was so specific, so emotionally charged, that I thought that Hypnotic Regression would be the best approach. I suspected that at some point in her childhood she had been abandoned. That caused a fear in her. This fear was likely being triggered by any observed behavior that might lead to her feeling abandoned again.
I did a simple breathing induction. Young people are generally more susceptible to hypnosis so I shortened the induction because of her age. As I thought, she turned out to be very susceptible. I could clearly see all the stages of hypnosis in her face as she went under.
Jealousy Hypnosis therapy procedure
I gently took her back to the feeling that she has when she thinks someone is going away to talk to someone else. "Allow yourself to get into that feeling. Feel that feeling. Allow that feeling to come out, that feeling you get when you think that someone is going away to talk to someone else and leaving you." "When you have the feeling, just say the word 'yes'".
When she told me that she had the feeling, she was feeling it right now, I then asked her to go back to the first time she had ever felt that way. I said "allow your mind to go back in time, to the first time you ever felt that feeling. When you get that first feeling your mind will give you a memory, a picture, something about what you are doing and what was going on at that time."
She immediately went back to a specific moment in time. Her mother was telling her that her father had died. "You will never see him again." The feeling that my client had was a deep sadness that she would never get to know him. She said she was aged five or six at the time.
I asked her gently how that child felt. She said "scared, lonely, anger at not getting to know him more." "Confusion".
Inner child work
I then got her to go back to that child, as herself as an adult. I got her to introduce herself to that child. "Tell the child who you are. Tell the child that you are there for her. Let that child know that you love her and you will always be there for her. She will never be lonely again. Hold that child. Put your arms around her. Feel her little fragile body. Feel the fear and anger and loneliness."
"Now take the fear from her. Tell her it is okay. Tell she did not do anything wrong. Say to her that she is a beautiful little girl. And that you love her. Make it right for her."
"Now make that little girl smile. You know how to make little girls smile. Now get her to laugh. Now take her out of that place, take her outside somewhere nice. Some place where she can play."
"Then watch as she grows." I then suggested that my client, the adult, could watch over that little girl. "You can be there as she grows. When she falls down you can pick up. You can kiss it better. Watch as she becomes six and seven years old, a child. Then she becomes nine and 10, a girl. Then 11 and 13, a teenager. And you are there with her every step of the way. Helping her, showing her what to do, telling her that she is beautiful and strong and you love her totally."
"Then she becomes 15 and 16 are young woman. Then 19 and 20. An adult. Strong, resilient, outgoing, exactly the kind of person you want to be."
Reintegrate the inner child
"And then that young girl grows to be exactly the same age as you are now. And you put your arms out and she puts her arms out. You embrace each other. As you become one person. You are her and she is you. She is in you and you are in her."
"You can become aware of that little girl deep inside. And every now and again, this little laugh bubbles up from nowhere that lets you know she is there. To remind you that there is a happy , laughing, playing girl inside. And you love her. She is beautiful. She is now part of you."
"So take a deep breath now. Take a deep breath and just relax everything."
"Now go around your body and check to see if there's anything left of that old feeling."
She she said the feeling had gone away completely. She said she felt so relaxed now.
We spent some time discussing what she had experienced. She said that her father had died when she was a child. He died of a heart attack very suddenly.
And it appears that she never got over it. Until now.
He is highly regarded in the hypnotherapy community. He is Vice President of the New Zealand Association of Professional Hypnotherapists (NZAPH).
He is regularly consulted for advice by other hypnotherapists around the world. He is known for the quality of his published scripts. He presents at international conferences and has published on hypnosis and advanced hypnotherapy.
He lives in Wellington New Zealand with his wife Trish and a cat called Parsnip.